Couples wishing to explore the possibility of being married at St Helen's should phone the Church Office 01235 520144 for an appointment on one of the “Clergy Consultation” sessions to discuss this with one of the clergy. These appointments usually take place between 7-8pm on Wednesday evenings.
If arrangements for the wedding are then to be made, couples are given administrative details, and asked to book in for our Marriage Preparation Course, which consists of 3 Wednesday evening meetings. The church, in its commitment to the support of couples coming to be married, consider these evenings to be essential.
This course is not intended to tell couples how their marriage should be, but rather to help couples explore important issues that they may not have considered, and also to think about ways in which they may communicate sensitively with each other.
We have a Saturday morning Wedding Fair, which we hold for couples who have been on our course, to hear about the possible readings and listen to music suitable for the wedding itself. It also provides an opportunity to discuss specific details with the clergy, and to get advice and see examples of the layout of service sheets.
Following the wedding, couples are invited to come to a Newlyweds Drinks Reception. It’s a lovely get-together. It gives us a chance to hear all about the day, after leaving the church and see the photos!
Feedback confirms our Marriage Preparation Course to be much valued and appreciated. Here are some recent comments:
“I enjoyed the course and was pleasantly surprised how helpful it was. It made certain issues easier to deal with.”
“Very helpful and informative” “Content spot on”
“Enjoyed meeting everyone and sharing ideas”
“The evenings were very well balanced. They covered everything that we needed to know. They’ve been valuable and I hope we can grow in honesty, communication, love and trust.”
“Welcome one another .. for the glory of God.” “That is God’s word for your marriage. Thank him for it; thank him for leading you thus far; ask him to establish your marriage, to confirm it, sanctify it, and preserve it. So your marriage will be for the praise of his glory”.
Dietrich Bonhoeffer from Letters and Papers from Prison in 1943